That’s the Rub

polished“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?”



This reminds me of a quote from Thomas Merton’s autobiography, the Seven Storey Mountain, “The more you try to avoid suffering, the more you suffer, because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you, in proportion to your fear of being hurt. The one who does most to avoid suffering is, in the end, the one who suffers most.”

Avoiding the uncomfortable is my natural response to difficult situations. I am learning that just because I feel uncomfortable doesn’t mean something is ‘wrong’. Every uncomfortable feeling I have doesn’t need to be ‘fixed’. Sometimes I just feel down or disappointed. I have found I need to sit in that space and embrace my emotions, the positive and the negative. They come and go. What am I to learn from the experience? That is how I reduce the suffering and how I become more ‘polished’.

  1. #1 by Christian Bruins on March 9, 2018 - 2:40 pm

    Good stuff man. Needed that today. Those small and insignificant things are beginning to torture me. Time to acknowledge all these emotions and let them pass.

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